Separating from a partner is not the same for everyone. It will take time to deal with the emotions of separation but things often get better over time. Understanding some of your feelings can make the process of separation easier.
How you may feel at different stages, and why
Most people will go through similar emotional stages after the family separates. The stages are:
- shock and surprise
- denial (not accepting that it has happened)
- fear, frustration and anger
- depression
- acceptance
The time it takes to move through each stage and how you feel as it happens will vary. Sometimes you may feel that you have taken a step backward and you are feeling worse as time goes on. This is normal and it will change.
If you know what stage you have reached, you will understand why you are feeling the way you do and this can help you find the best ways of coping. It’s also important to stay as calm and stable as possible for your child’s welfare.
