Stress and child maintenance
If you are suffering from emotional stress, you may find it difficult to think clearly about child maintenance
because it makes you anxious or angry. The stress you feel can prevent you sorting out child maintenance with the
other parent and doing what is best for your child. It can lead to you refusing to cooperate with the other parent.
Working with the other parent
Try to work together by focusing on what’s best for your child and create a new relationship as separated parents.
Remember:
- Keep communicating.
- Treat your relationship with the other parent and the arrangements for your child as two separate issues
- Your child still loves the other parent, even if you don’t.
Potential health risks of stress
Stress from a recent separation or parenting apart can affect your mental health. It can lead to an increasing
reliance on alcohol, cigarettes or other drugs.
Try not to get into the habit of using alcohol or drugs to mask unpleasant feelings. Remember to value and
look after yourself – get help if you need it; there are many positive ways to deal with stress.
How can I deal with this stress?
- Regular exercise will help relieve stress.
- Talk to your friends or family; let them know how you feel.
- Try to get as much rest and sleep as you can.
- Get professional help if you think you need it.
For help dealing with stress or concerns about your health, contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 (24 hours).
Some groups in our
useful organisations section can help you with your feelings.
Vicky’s story
"I was a mess. It was awful. I just started crying out of nowhere. My doctor was really good though, and suggested
I tried going for a walk every day. I thought it was a daft idea but it has made a difference. I feel much more in
control now."
Vicky, mother
