The better you understand how your child is feeling, the easier it will be for you to make your relationship with them positive and secure.
When parents live apart or the family separates, this can be a very difficult time for children. They can feel:
- confused
- frightened
- sad
- hurt
- rejected
- betrayed
- angry
- guilty
Try to understand what your child is thinking and feeling. This will enable you to help them adjust to the change and ensure their needs are not forgotten.
Rajan’s story
"I was really hurt and angry when Aasia decided our marriage was over and took the children with her to
live at her mother’s house. I was too upset to see Sonika at first. Aasia and I realised our separation
was affecting Sonika and that made it easier to put our own feelings to one side. Now, Sonika spends every
Sunday and Wednesday evening with me. It works for us. Dealing with that meant we could also sort out
maintenance; Sonika will not suffer because of what has happened to us."
Rajan, father
