If you're a parent living apart from your child some of the time, you may wonder what you can do to stay involved in their life.
It has been shown that when both parents keep an active role in their child's life after separation (providing it is safe to do so), it can have a really positive impact on the child's wellbeing and development.
Your child's environment can feel very different if one of their parents suddenly isn't part of their day-to-day life anymore. But there are ways you can support your child emotionally.
They may need reassuring that it's not their fault you're not living together. Remind them you're there for them and encourage them to tell you about their feelings.
Whether you live with your child or not, there are things you can do to help them feel more secure. Try to maintain their familiar routines. Be reliable for them and keep arguments away from them. Show them you're okay and staying positive.
As a parent, the stress of separation or living apart can get in the way of making arrangements for your child. But if you and the other parent can overcome these feelings, you'll be better placed to keep up suitable child maintenance arrangements.
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on all these aspects of parenting after separation or while living apart.
Useful organisations
Centre for separated families
Provides advice and support to parents and other people experiencing family separation.
Families Need Fathers
Provides information for parents and also runs local open support meetings.
Gingerbread
Information for lone parents on issues including: maintenance, tax credits, benefits, work, education,
legal rights, childcare and holidays.
One Parent Families Scotland
A national voluntary organisation, registered as a charity. Members include lone parents, the organisations
who work with them and others who want to help.
Parenting across Scotland
A partnership between adult relationship organisations and children's charities, on issues affecting parents
and families in Scotland today.
ParentlinePlus
Provides advice and support for anyone in a parenting role, including step-parents and grandparents.
Parentline Scotland
Provides advice and support for anyone in a parenting role, including step-parents and grandparents.
